Brenna Holmes & Kerry Lenahan: Congrats, You’re A Manager, Now What?
Our panel shares advice for new managers, which can also support established leaders. They bring strategies for employee-centric growth; self and team advocacy; goal setting; coaching; building trust; and more. They’re Brenna Holmes from Brenna Holmes Advisory Consulting, and Kerry Lenahan at Incubate Growth Consulting. (This is part of our coverage of the 2025 Nonprofit Technology Conference.)
Dana James: Facing Feedback
Dana James wants to make feedback a growth opportunity, for both giver and receiver. She has ways to make feedback constructive for both, so you can create a culture of continuous improvement. Dana is with Community Centric Fundraising. (This is also from our #25NTC coverage.)
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Welcome to Tony Martignetti Nonprofit Radio, big nonprofit ideas for the other 95%. I’m your aptly named host and the podfather of your favorite hebdominal podcast. Oh, I’m glad you’re with us. I’d bear the pain of tubuloreexus if you ruptured me with the idea that you missed this week’s show. Here’s our associate producer, Kate, with what’s going on. Hey Tony, we’ve got much more from our coverage of the 2025 nonprofit technology conference. Congrats, you’re a manager. Now what? Our panel shares advice for new managers, which can also support established leaders. They bring strategies for employee centric growth, self and team advocacy, goal setting, coaching, building trust, and more. They are Brenna Holmes from Brenna Holmes Advisory Consulting, and Carrie Linehan at Incubate Growth Consulting. Then Facing feedback, Donna James wants to make feedback a growth opportunity for both giver and receiver. She has ways to make feedback constructive for both, so you can create a culture of continuous improvement. Donna is with community centric fundraising. On Tony’s take 2. It’s National Make a Will Month. Here is, congrats, you’re a manager. Now what? Hello and welcome back to Tony Martignetti Nonprofit Radio coverage of the 2025 nonprofit Technology Conference where we are together in Baltimore, Maryland. Our 25 NTC coverage is sponsored by Heller Consulting technology services for nonprofits. With me now are Brenna Holmes and Kerry Lenehan. Brenna Holmes is a principal at Brenna Holmes Advisory Consulting, aptly named. And Cary Linehan is the principal and founder at Incubate Growth Consulting. So welcome, Brenna, Carrie, welcome. Welcome to nonprofit Radio. Thanks, Tony. Happy to be here. Happy to be here. Thank you. Uh, your session topic is congrats. You’re a manager. Now what? Uh, let’s start with you, Brenda. What, what, why did you feel, uh, well, overview of the topic you talk about in your session? Yeah, so it was a workshop, um, which really enabled a lot of peer learning. That was a lot of what we wanted to show, uh, the community is that you don’t have to go this alone. Many managers are, uh, promoted because they’re wonderful individual contributors and they don’t get any management training when they become a manager. Uh, so they have to balance and figure out kind of on their own and feel very isolated often, uh, how to balance their old duties with their new duties and support their team to really coach them to success. OK, OK, um, so why don’t we, uh, well, let’s start with some, uh, some wisdom, Carry. uh, why don’t you start off with, uh, what, what’s. What’s your, what is your uh advice start starting off advice for uh new leaders? Oh gosh, I would say, you know, we learned in our workshop that 70% of people receive no training at their organization on how to manage their teams and so as Brenna said, you’re not alone there are plenty of great resources. Out there and people who could help, I would recommend to go to your manager, go to your HR team and ask them for some best practices and some training and their advice on on how to get started. OK, or if you’re a smaller shop, you maybe like the outsource the HR function is outsourced, you know what, what, uh, you know, get that, that consulting team or that that agency or. I don’t know. I, I feel like we’re kind of at a loss. It was 70% don’t get, don’t get any training. Like on Friday you weren’t leading managing anyone, and now on Monday you are. Now you’re in charge of, let’s say a small team, like 34 people. All right, it’s not huge, but your responsibilities are enormously different on Monday than they were on Friday. Well, give us some more help in our transition. Yeah, so I think one of the first things is to set expectations with your supervisor around what the goals are for that team, whether it’s 1 people, 1 person or 5 people, uh, if you don’t have clear expectations for the roles and responsibilities not only for yourself but each of those team members, people are just gonna make assumptions and. Fill in the gaps on their own, which is usually gonna lead to some sort of upsetness or misunderstanding misunderstanding at the very least right exactly um and and generally you wanna also do a listening tour maybe you knew those people as peers before maybe you didn’t but schedule some time one on one to have some conversations with them around how they view their day to day. What their understanding is of their job duties, their expectations are what their frustrations are, what their points of happiness are, um, and, and figure out what those or align your goals um with the team for for the team in the department with what their strengths are to the much as much as you can, right? So be that way you’re gonna get get them engaged um and not just feel like they’re widget makers in the drudgery of the day to day. What about the potential awkwardness? Suppose they were your peers on Friday, and now you’re managing them. Uh, it’s awkward. I mean, they’ve told you things as a friend, a work friend that maybe they would, they might not have shared if you, if they, if they knew you were gonna be to be their boss on Monday. Um, how do you overcome that? New relationship awkwardness. Yeah, I don’t think there’s a silver bullet. I think it really is just I don’t know I’ll jump in a huge part of leadership is building trust with your team, and I think that trust you build with people exists whether you’re a peer or whether you’re in a position of management and leadership and I think keeping people’s confidence. Um, when that’s necessary is really helpful and as Brenda said, setting expectations of what your new role is, what their role is, but really creating those clear guidelines and maintaining that trust just as you would if they were your personal friend or they were your peer before. What about the, I don’t know, I’m, I’m positioning, imagining myself in a role I’ll never take because I, I would be a terrible employee. Nobody would ever hire me. I would, I would even, I’d show up late for the interview just to prove that I could, you know, I don’t believe you. Yeah, no, I’d be, no, I would be a bad employee, um. Thankfully, I have my own business, so I don’t, I don’t need others employment, uh. So I envisioned myself in the, OK, it’s Monday morning now. Like, what’s the welcome? Like, how do you, do I, do I, do I need to give a speech to the troops, you know, my, my new team of 3 or 4? Do I, or do I I we’re all in this together, uh, and I’m, I’m gonna do my best to, you know, be vulnerable. No, I don’t, you don’t say that obviously you demonstrate you don’t say it, but you know, do I need to give a speech to the troops Monday morning? I think one of the things that comes up and you’re getting to this is communications and setting expectations and it’s Monday morning you walk into the room in your new role and you haven’t really gotten organized yet and you’re not starting yet and so I think being really honest and see where you are in the process and as Brenda said you know maybe. Talking about saying we’re gonna start with goals and setting goals together where they have agency you just said it listening is so much more important at this moment than talking and a book that I love is um is about it’s focused it’s in our notes and it’s focused on asking the right questions and so it’s about. Not necessarily advising in the beginning but just start by asking your team’s questions related to what they need, what they see the goals need to be where they might feel stuck in accomplishing, you know, the goals that were in front of them before. OK, all right, so, alright, so my General MacArthur, uh, speech to the troops moment, not, not, not appropriate on day one, morning one, all right, more, you know, like we’re gonna be meeting together. I’m gonna meet with you. individually there’s there’s a lot I have to learn, right? A little humility. I know what’s best for the team and here’s what we’re gonna do. OK, that’s a failure. I think that, yeah, um, OK, alright, um, what’s more, you know, uh, your principles of employee centric growth strategies. What are, what are some more, what are some more tactics or strategies for this new manager? Yeah, I think we’ve been speaking to. A lot of that already, right? It is putting the employee at the center letting them have agency over their own future with the company um there’s there’s no guarantee no matter the tenure of or seniority of an of an employee that they’re gonna stay, right? So it really is about helping align their goals with the team goals with the organization’s goals so that people see a mutually beneficial future. Uh, together, OK, yeah, exploring like your own professional development goals, you know, maybe someday you’d like to be in my, my role as the manager, or maybe you wouldn’t. Some people, some people don’t want to lead others and manage. They don’t want that headache. OK, um. Alright, well, what else, what other principles you wanted to share, Carrie? You know, I think touching on one thing that we spent a lot of time on in the workshop was all of a sudden as as an individual contributor you’re project managing yourself and the date you know where you’re heading for a goal and you’re doing your day to day tasks all of a sudden you’re a manager. And now you’re managing a team who has goals and are all individually doing different tasks and we spent a lot of time about the importance of managing your team to outcomes versus trying to micromanage the individual tasks that all of your team members are doing so spending a lot of time making sure everyone’s clear on goals. Clear on a general path on how to get there timelines, milestones, expectations but then stepping back and giving your team the space to do the work was a topic we spent a lot of time on that was really important to the people in the room. So let’s flush some of that out. How do you align the individual tasks with the overall team goals? So a lot of times it’s really about making sure that there’s ownership on from your team members on different parts of the tasks, right? So, so some people might be let’s say you’re in a fundraising team and you have people who are focused on acquisition versus people who are focused on retention. You might have an individual, you might have a team goal of raising say a million dollars that year. And each team member might have a part of that goal which might be revenue and a set of relationships that they’re managing so it’s making sure that they’re clear on I would say the sub goals and. Giving them some general direction but letting them really drive the tasks to achieve those goals and just checking in making sure things are on track and that you feel comfortable but not getting into like let me see that email before you send it out right? yeah yeah and we because a lot of the people in the room self identified as being promoted from within. Versus being an external management hire, uh, we spent, I noticed a lot of the groups talking about how to regulate yourself as the manager to let go of the things that you used to have ownership over and be very, very good at, right, because often we get very protective of those things because I did it great, I did it my way and maybe you should do that too. It’s not always the. Right approach, right? So that’s where you fall into a bit of a micromanagement trap. If you can’t just let that go and you know learn strategic delegation of the different tasks that even if it doesn’t happen exactly around the same course that you would have taken before, it still achieves that that outcome that everybody’s agreed to. You’re also giving a team member or members agency. What you call it strategic delegation? Yeah, you’re recognizing that, you know, I’m not the only person on this team who can do this. Um, here’s your, your authority to to proceed. OK, OK. Uh, what else, uh, I mean we only spent like 12 minutes together. Come on. You did, you did a 90 minute session, right, or an hour session session. What what did you teach folks or share with folks. Yeah, it, I mean, the beautiful thing about it is it was a workshop so there was a lot of peer learning. Carrie and I got to float around 8 different super engaged groups, um, and then listen as they reported back out, um, but one of the other topics that came up both in the quiz or like poll that we asked them to share about what they were interested in and then in organically in the conversations was the difference between coaching and correcting um Zakia who wasn’t able to join us for the radio spot today but. Uh, she shared her personal experience at Animal Legal Defense Fund and uh she had that exact, you know, I’m the direct response fundraising manager and I’m really good at that managing vendor relationships but never individual people until she had to manage individual people um and she got a person who um had been with the organization for a while and already had some. Marks against them in their performance record so she had to learn very early on how to correct um while not getting you know becoming defensive herself or causing them to become defensive and then the value of coaching to uplift um and get them to solve their own problems versus having to dictate and correct in a very um. Explicit manner and Carrie had a really great note from the IFC around like what the definition of coaching itself is. Yeah, you know, I think the word coaching today is used so broadly that it almost has no meaning in a lot of spaces and so. The International coaching Federation, one of the examples they use if you go through any of their courses on what coaching is you know you’re consulting or you’re being corrective in a space where you have the answers and people are asking you the questions that’s consulting coaching is when. You are asking questions because you recognize that the power of the team, the collective knowledge of the team or the individuals in front of you have the answers within them or are very capable of finding those answers for themselves and that’s something that as a manager and a leader you really want to do to empower your team you know one of the traps when you become a manager is people. Will look to you for approval. People will look to you. They want you to tell them what to do to some degree, but the trap in that is you create this dependency where now people feel like, oh I can’t do anything without your permission or unless you tell me it’s the email that Brendan said, you know, I can’t send this email before it’s approved exactly that that’s what it would be. Yeah, so, so I love that distinction between coaching. I’ve never thought about that. Coaching and consulting consultants have the answers and coaching is more helping the person or the team find the answers themselves exactly and and and your your job as a leader is to empower your team. It’s the collective power of the team. It is so much more capable than if you are just telling people to go do tasks all day. Also takes an incredible lot of time and puts a lot of pressure on you individually. Yeah, it sounds unsustainable and detrimental to the awesome awesome. Um, what did you learn it was a workshop so as you were patrolling the tables, not patrolling as you were surveying the various groups, what did you all both come away with? Yeah, one of the biggest ones that I did was uh people are really focused on the generational shifts that are happening right now and. Um, I, I try to actually be less focused on that and more focused on who the individual people are in my own coaching practices with my clients, uh, and so thinking having to talk with each of the different groups around making sure that we’re not projecting our own preconceived notions of a generation or a type of people right stereotyping in in so many ways which often happens subconscious. is also a big part of being a good manager because you can’t expect everyone on the team to have the same work style, the same learning style, um, to perceive and project the same level of investment. That word came up a lot is that this new generation doesn’t seem as invested in the mission they pretty much 5 o’clock, you know, my work is done. Gen Z, we were talking about Gen Zoom I learned. I didn’t know that word zoomers to boomers what we maybe I should call that panel that zoomers to boomers that’s a good one. Um, OK, um, but even within those generations, um, or people like personally I don’t. Work I don’t like my life is not just my work, right? I have many facets um to my personality and other things that I enjoy. I’m very passionate about my work um but it’s not the end all be all. I’m very conscious of boundaries. I very much protect my social life my private life and my time for that and have always with client relationships and. Um, and staff relationships made sure that I walk the walk and not just tell them to do things that I don’t do personally, right? So making sure that you’re not responding to emails in the middle of the night or sending them out at odd hours on the weekends that even if your subject line or your email signature which is becoming more common now says, you know, when I send this is not, does not dictate when you should respond. there is a subconscious. Nudge that the recipient says well my boss is working now maybe I should be too um so I’m a much bigger proponent of you know doing the scheduled send using technology to help us be take the onus off the recipient. Because we don’t know how they’re gonna react, how they’re gonna perceive our intentions, um, and be more conscious about how we make those actions. I know that’s Microsoft uh you can do it in Google, you can do it in any email tool from your phone or your desktop, yeah, it’s very simple now, yeah. And you can pick your time, so time zones also come into play, but I think it is, it’s important for the leaders and the managers themselves of people whether again it’s 11 person or 6 or 14, um, to not put the onus on those recipients. To ensure that like to assume that they’re going to read my intentions correctly. I sent it now but still you’re the boss and, and to your point. She’s working maybe I should be too. Carrie, what did you take away come away? Well, first of all I think the room was full and and there were so many people, everyone was there is really committed to being a great leader and a great manager. They care about their people, they care about the organization they work for and that’s a great starting point and I think so. People after our session came up and we’re saying, you know, where, where can I get training or I know you put some resources in the notes, but how do I do this in a way that I know I’m doing it effectively and so there was a real hunger for more information and for more training in this space on how to lead and manage effectively. OK, is that is that. You can share with listeners can, can you email that to me and I’ll yeah it’s the NTC collaborative note, so I sure they’d be willing to say that. I’ll do that. I know that’s good because I know I have your email. So if you don’t do it I know I can follow up. OK, I’m putting Brenna. I’m putting my notes right now. Brenna. OK. All right, so we’ll share that with listeners. Um, good, you know, uh, yeah, support like the managers need support. They also need to be supporting their team. You, you play a little bit of a therapy role, right? Like, um, being there as a confidant for, for both men, you know, people of similar peer group in the organization as well as your individual team members that goes to the trust that you talked about Carrie, I mean breach somebody’s confidence once and then it’ll be all over it’ll be all over the office you’re not a trustworthy person. Forget about it. You may as well change jobs. you have to have your team’s back at all times and sometimes that’s hard if there’s moments where you might not be on the same page as your team member, but you have that moment where you don’t have their back and it’s obvious and that trust goes away an opportunity where you know someone says something in confidence and and then you can say. Can I share this, you know, get their consent. Maybe maybe they came to you not wanting you to share, but if, if you can. Uh, uh, help them see, help them recognize that change is really only gonna happen if I can share it. Can I share it anonymously, maybe, you know, a team member came to me and shared this. Hopefully it’s not something that would be identifiable to that person, you know, but um if I to get their consent to share it. Anonymously or otherwise because that’s really the only way I can help make a change, but you know, at least, at least you’re offering they may say, no, no, you, I don’t want I no don’t share and then of course you don’t, but at least you’re offering that level of support like to elevate their their voice and their concern, yeah and I think I mean managers have the opportunity to. Translate that feedback um that is shared with them to level it up to their own supervisors even if they’re not sharing like the specific anecdote right and I think that is a level of responsibility that the managers have is to be that professional communicator in between the people they manage and the higher ups so depending on what level of mid-level management you are that could be the CEO suite and making sure that there are like really strong. Professional development paths for your team advocating acting as an advocate for your team um or there could be more layers between you and them right but that is a huge role of of an effective manager is making sure that you are that voice for their issues, their concerns, uh, which are yours because you know the the buck stops here with you. Um, and everything, no matter who on the team is res quote unquote responsible for each individual thing, it all rolls up to you. So, uh, that came up a lot in the conversation yesterday is around how maybe you weren’t in a communications-esque role before, you know, you’re a developer, you’re an engineer, you’re a designer, um, and having to become that communicator so that you can be the advocate for your team as well as being able to. Uh, tell the corporate policies in an appropriate way to, uh, in the other direction is, is critical. OK. All right, Carrie, why don’t you leave us with some parting thoughts about for, for new leaders encouragement, encouragement for new leaders. Uh, as we said before, you’re not alone. Find a peer group, find a few formal or informal mentors that you can bounce ideas off of, um, that you can check in with and you know, really check yourself I think. That is one thing that will help you. I will also say like taken straight from Brene Brown’s book about we don’t rise to the level of our goals we fall to the levels of our systems set up systems for yourself that make it easy to manage things like. Standing agendas for your weekly meetings, 90 day check-ins with your team members where you get to go deep with them on how they’re performing and where they need help and what’s going really well, um, those setting up those systems will make your life a lot easier and also create consistent expectations for your team members so I think those are two things that you can do as a new manager to just get off on a confident and good foot. Thank you. Thank you. My pleasure. They are Brenna Holmes, principal at Brenna Holmes Advisory Consulting, and Kerry Linehan, principal and founder at Incubate Growth Consulting. Cool. Kerry, I’m sorry, Brenna, Kerry, thank you very much. Thank you. Thanks, pleasure and thank you for being with Tony Martignetti nonprofit radio coverage of 25 NTC where our coverage is sponsored by Heller Consulting technology services for nonprofits. It’s time for Tony’s take two. Thank you, Kate. It’s the August month of August, and that can only mean one thing. Everyone knows it’s National Make a Will Month. You know that wills are fundamental, foundational to the work that I do, planned giving fundraising. So how could we not be celebrating this August month. When the national fever is, is, it’s, it’s obvious in the streets. The, the revelry, the celebrations, I’m, I’m concerned that, that the, that the nation is going to peak too soon with all the revelry, with all the commotion that’s going on because we’ve got this is a 31 day month. We’re only a couple of weeks in. This is only that this, this is coming out only the 2nd week, so please, please. Pace yourself. Take your time as you’re celebrating National Make a Will Month. Actually, it might even be a good idea to have a buddy so that if you get carried away, your buddy, your designated, uh, driver, so to speak, right? They can, they can bring you back down to earth, calm you, remind you that there are weeks left of National Make a Will Month. So, I don’t want you to peak too soon. Take your time. I’ll share, uh, what I’ve been doing on LinkedIn is sharing my uh 18. The 18 reasons why wills are the way to launch your planned giving fundraising at your nonprofit. So, I certainly can’t do all 18, uh, in one show. That’s just too much and plus we have to space them out so that people do, so that you do pace yourself, pace only a couple at a time. So, like, I only give number one. The number one reason why wills are the way to launch plan giving fundraising at your nonprofit. Because they are the most popular planned gift by far. You’ll see at least 75%, maybe as much as 90% of all the gifts in your complete planned giving program are gonna be simple gifts in wills. They’re the low hanging fruit. So that’s the number one reason. Um, I’m not gonna be able to do all 18 reasons, you know, throughout the month of this show. Uh, because it’s just, you know, it gets a little laborious, but you can read them, if you follow me on LinkedIn, I’ll be doing them throughout the month, uh, there on my LinkedIn page. And um National Make a Will Month, the August month of August. Please, pace yourself. Don’t get carried away. That is Tony’s take too. Kate I was getting excited towards the beginning cause you were saying, oh, you know what this month is? And I’m like, it’s the month I get to go to my uncle’s beach house. I’m still excited for Make a Will Month, but I’m kind of excited to go to my uncle’s beach house. OK. Well, it’s, it’s those are difficult priorities to balance. Uh, we all have our cross to bear. They’re, they’re both revelatory, celebratory. You know, the, the, uh, commotion in the streets. I, I mean, I see it on my street, you know, it’s apparent, it’s a parent. So I can understand your, your conundrum about which, which is, uh, deserves more. Uh, more celebration, more. Are you celebrating? Are you like getting ready, the house ready, and yeah, I’ll be celebrating when you leave. That, that’ll be actually my celebration, so. No, I’m looking forward to you all coming down, of course, of course. I look forward to it every year. Uh, no, I actually clean the house after you leave because you bring two dogs. Now you got 2 dogs coming instead of just one. That’s so exciting twice the fur and, and, uh, make sure it’s twice the number of legs that have to be kept off my sofas. Oh yeah, we are trying to teach him, you know, down. Yes, good, off, off, down, don’t even get started, not even off. It shouldn’t even be off because off suggests that he’s already on. We don’t want, we don’t want, it’s Curtis. We don’t want Curtis on. So not just off, off is not good enough, should be no. No, yeah, that’s a big one. OK. Well, we’ve got book who but loads more time. Here is facing feedback. Hello and welcome to Tony Martignetti Nonprofit Radio. Big nonprofit ideas for the other 95%. I’m your aptly named host and the podfather of your favorite hebdominal podcast. Oh, my guest loves Podfather. I do. I love it. Welcome to our 2025 nonprofit technology conference coverage. We are sponsored here by Heller Consulting Technology Services for nonprofits. The guest that loves the the podfather thing is Donna James, Systems design and engagement strategist at Community Centric fundraising. Welcome, Donna. Thank you. Thanks for having me. I really pleasure. My pleasure. Absolutely. Your session topic is facing feedback. Adventures in emotional capacity. Yes, give me an overview of uh what you covered in your session. Yeah, it was wonderful, you know, I, I try to give folks some tools, some real like meat and potatoes of the meal, um, but feedback is such a, such a heavy thing sometimes I open it up with, uh, someone told me once that the four most hateful words in the English language are we need to talk. And the work spin of that is I have feedback for you so I ask people just how they feel first when they hear that um and then we walk through like there are true tried and tested frameworks there’s language that’s being shared across the sector now to really. Um, I guess like standardize is maybe a word, but I would say like ground us so that we are having the same conversation when we use these words, um, so I give folks a real overview of a solid feedback loop and those steps, um, and then I try to talk about the weight of it because to your point it, it is. Heavy to receive um but it’s also really vulnerable to give feedback and that human experience is is where the real work is and that I think I I got hip to real early in my career was like how we work together sometimes feels a lot more um the topic that we need to be having versus like what we’re doing. is that because you were a troublesome employee and I’m a lot. I have feedback for you. Did you get that a lot? I think it was because I noticed people didn’t like it. Like I’m, uh, I grew up, uh, singing. I went to Berkeley College of Music. I worked there as well, yeah, yes, in Boston, um, so I’m like oriented to this true what I think is like the artist instinct of this call and response, um, and so for me I was always that. That person who was like, can we get quarterly emails? Can we talk about it this week? Like how do you think I’m doing this week? And I, you know, to her credit, I had this wonderful boss was one of my first bosses who felt the same way and we were sort of the weirdos and um I don’t know I’ve I’ve always sort of been interested in how the audience is receiving. I’ve always been grounded in that and that’s probably because I’m used to holding the microphone and looking at their souls and hope that we’re connecting and. Um, so for me it it feels so natural, but to find that it’s something that feels so, you know, it could be anxiety ridden for so many people. It can feel like such a stopping point and. Um, I think I got very passionate about helping that because I’ve always worked with teams that like I look around and they’re so talented and I know the answers are in this room and to cease collaboration sort of stagnated or or you know my that boss called them bubble ups bubble ups are happening, but there weren’t always work flows to deal with that, right? There wasn’t always a framework or a leader in the room who was like, OK, let’s dig into this um conflict feels like a dirty word and for me, no dissonance is the story, right? That’s how. We get to resolve, we have to have that dissonance we have to have it and in it is the good juicy story that’s gonna make us inspired, make us keep going and it’s an opportunity. I can tell because part of the emotional capacity um background resonating with the audience looking to their soul. How am I being received? How is this performance being received? So how is this feedback being received? All right, um. Uh, how about we, uh, we start with the, uh, the giver of the, of the feedback. Um, this is a weight, right? I mean, for that person as well we should we need to recognize it’s not, uh, very few people I, I believe people are generally good, so I think very few people take pleasure in giving the feedback that’s critical. Um, how can we as the giver. Help I guess help ourselves and be eventually and then we’ll get to helping the recipient because, well, yeah, yeah, how can we be helping ourselves and be helping the recipient because then we’ll talk about what the recipient needs to do to help themselves. All right, so what. We do. Absolutely I think um first is like accepting that it’s gonna feel vulnerable I think sometimes especially for those of us who’ve been in management positions for a long time they’re sort of like I should be able to do this but like. For me the practice of feedback should feel vulnerable because when you are vulnerable you’re connecting, right? If you’re vulnerable you’re open to receive those signals from the other person to think about how it’s landing with them if you’re not feeling vulnerable you’re probably not doing feedback you’re probably like commenting you’re probably not connecting and if there isn’t that two way then for me that’s not the best kind of feedback, right? That’s more evaluative critique and I don’t necessarily consider it the same thing. OK, um, so. It we acknowledge that. You’re a human being, being spoiler alert. If you, if you feel vulnerable about this, if you’re feeling empathy to the person you’re about to have a conversation with, you’re in a good spot you’re in a good spot and like. There’s feedback and feedback you can ask someone how they receive feedback. I have a a lovely little um graphic that I share that actually an audience member contributed from a previous session and now I’ve incorporated it but it’s the um feedback cookies, right? Um we talk about the feedback sandwich a lot. The sandwich’s cover has been blown like we all see it coming, it’s over. The feedback sandwich is good uh they say to say something good, something affirming, and then you give the critique in the middle and then you end it with another affirming right and like that is done, but. It’s such a frame that I think people lock into so easy that like you can smell it coming you’re just like OK what are you trying to like hide in the sandwich you know what is that? Just say the thing um this this piece and I her name is Liz and I can’t remember the last name for the life of me, but. Um, there are like 9 or 10 cookies and it’s like a black and white cookie, like give me the good and the bad or like give me dough like just say it unfiltered, give me the things is it a macaron where you want like elegant wording and like some some good meaty like critical information in the middle um and just giving folks a chance to define and like advise you. On how to work with them is something that not everybody has had the experience to do but it works really well because then that person who’s receiving the feedback knows when to expect it. I feel like we have such a deep relationship with anxiety nowadays that like just allowing people to understand when like the work flow is going to happen and having it be familiar does so much to allow them to receive the feedback as well. Um, the, the, uh, the 10 cookies, can we work in some of the Christmas ones? Like, I like, I like the one that’s filled with the jam, you know, it’s got that cookie that lump or the one with the chocolate kiss in it or the the pinoli nuts, the pine nut pine pine nuts, nuts, cookies. I’m gonna need those in in I don’t know if they’re they’re not in there, but they’re one of people asked yesterday they were like sometimes. Cookie, I’m different, you know, every day I’d like to see the holiday cookie assort. I like it. Yeah, maybe when you’re in the Christmas spirit, this is how you like to this is how I like it. I have some news feedback. I did tell the bonus points for these types of cookies and the people. and then keep the cookie. That’s bonus if you wanna do that. Um, any more from the from the giver’s perspective? Well, what can we do to to uh go beyond just the empathy that we feel. So before we get to the recipient, what, what that person should be doing to take care of themselves, what can we do as the The donor, I don’t know, we’re not really we’re not really donating constructive, but we’re the giver, we’re the speaker. What can we do to help the person we’re about to have a conversation with? Yeah, yeah, I think, um, particularly like in this kind of dynamic where we’re obviously talking about somebody who either has like manager oversight over the person or the project or something like that um so in that way like really grounding it on like what is the goal, what are we working toward together here um so that that collaborative spirit and like. Knowing that this conversation is grounded in this and this only like this is an intentional conversation this is not your whole year’s evaluative right moment in context context is key, right? and and again like letting people know I do think making sure that if you are giving feedback and it’s only critical right, that’s gonna make it challenging to give feedback in the future for those of us that are managers making sure that you are giving an overwhelming amount of like affirming feedback or like. Like I appreciate when you do this or I really noticed that or I wanna celebrate you for this that can help people have a better experience and relationship to feedback in general, right? I think that’s the biggest sort of call to action that I have for all of us is like work on your relationship with feedback regardless of your preciality um regardless of how often you work with it um for me feedback can manifest in the individual relationships but it’s also about our programming, right? Everybody at this space is working on things. And hoping that the audiences and the constituents they serve are like appreciating that effort um but often we try to get things into such a perfect place that we don’t open ourselves up to allow them to have like collaborative insight and ownership in the experience um so in that way if we’re talking with groups letting people process the feedback together, share and dialogue about how they’re receiving it because the way I receive your feedback if it’s about a general thing, not me, right? Um, might be very different than the way the person next to us receives it and sees the insights in it, so really pulling it out and, and making it like a creative project like why not? It’s just relationship building we’re just calling it feedback and we’re all here for the same goal and we’re all here for the same for the same mission, yeah, I want you to like it. Right, right, um, let’s switch then to the recipient. OK, we’ve just heard the words. um, I have feedback for you. Your heart sinks. We internalize, we personalize mistakes. uh, well, internalizing, I mean, you’re gonna take, you’re gonna take responsibility, assuming the conversation is appropriately placed. Let’s assume that we got the right. Yes, let’s assume we have the the right person delivering they’ve done their work. Or what do we, how can we take care of ourselves? Yeah, one of the things I highlight for folks in this session is I believe they’re like barriers to day to day feedback practice um some of those are defensiveness, perfectionism quantity over quality, right? These are familiar things, um, but in particular our defensiveness spikes super hard, right? So what can you do and how are you working on your awareness with like what you bring to the table, right? I’m curious about what people have to offer me because there’s nothing. You can say that’s gonna take away what I know I have, you know, um, and most folks are working on something, right? I would hope that when you’re offering someone specific feedback about the way that they work it’s probably in line with the goal that they shared with you if you’re a manager, right? Maybe I say you know this year I’m really wanting to work on the relationships I have around the office so that I can be more collaborative, right? If I’m gonna get feedback about that later then that feels helpful you’re helping me with my goal and in that way we’re co-creating this like work experience. Together and it feels a little bit more intentional and a little bit more about us and our careers and our relationships and our communities and less about like the numbers and the metrics and things like that um it makes it real we are so mission aligned in the sector right? it’s personal whether or not we want it to be at some point um it it’s deeply meaningful work for us so it’s hard to separate that out so to own that there is a personal attachment and that it is really meaningful and allowing it can let us come at it from a more authentic place I think. We’re, you and I are assuming that the uh the uh giver of this information is, is, uh, doing it humanely. suppose it’s not, it’s suppose it’s more antagonistic. I don’t know, maybe, maybe even threatening or if, but if not threatening, just, you know, it’s uh it’s, it’s uh. Inhumanly, you know, being being conveyed, yeah, but it’s being done harshly, harshly, maybe condescending feedback, OK, I’m getting it the person talking to me and now is condescending and harsh. What do I, what do I do? I guess it depends on the situation right? for for those of us who are doing this with like programs if it’s like the audience right maybe our community is like I don’t know why you’re doing things like this y’all are not being helpful. I know you’re supposed to be here to be helping us you’re not being helpful. I don’t like it. I hate you right? that’s we don’t want that we don’t wanna hear that but. I believe that every engagement is a bit of feedback, right? And even if it is feelings forward there’s something underneath it so when we’re dealing with someone that like we are responsible for um you know I’m highlighting that power dynamic of like are we the org and they’re the audience they’re the community, um, it’s our responsibility to be more curious, right? People are going to have feelings not everybody’s gonna be a feedback practitioner, right? Your manager may not be a feedback practitioner this may not be something that they have really leaned into it may be an area where they could grow, um, whether or not you have the kind of relief. where you can offer feedback to your manager is something that may or may not be um realistic um obviously we would hope for that as an ideal but I think the most important thing that folks can do is remember that feedback offered it’s your prerogative and it’s your artistry to decide what feedback you’re gonna receive what is useful for you and and how you can apply it for your ultimate goals, right? Sometimes we’re getting feedback that. You know, if someone says to me like, hey, I really think that you should dress a little bit more subtle. I think that you’ll blend in a little bit better here. Well, that has never been my goal, Tony. My goal has never been to to fit in. It’s also never been realistic. um, she’s loud, she’s an artist, she loves to make a noise like it’s just not gonna jive with me, so I would say a royal blue and also watermelon fingernails which I thought. Look like Christmas trees. Uh, yeah, it could be maybe I was like you a little bit. Could be Christmas, but it’s watermelon. I knew I knew it wasn’t Christmas, but, uh, yeah, the watermelon. um, yeah, all right, so, but we also, you know, we want to, I think subsumed that what you’re saying is we want to be able to understand what’s being told to us. So, you know, if it’s not coming through because it’s, there’s, there’s this harshness and rhetoric and condescension, you know, I. I just don’t understand what you’re, I, I don’t understand what you’re, what we’re trying to get to what you’re trying to convey. I, I don’t have a full understanding of what it is I need to do differently to support the team. Yeah, I’m not sure what I’m supposed to pull out of this to to shift yeah I think a ton of us have been in that position too. I would say like that it’s it’s always gonna be curiosity, right? I’m curious about what you’re trying to get at. I’m really curious. I really wanna figure it out. And in that way we might have to get good at asking questions and managing up um and I think that’s realistic for a lot of us you know I think there was a wonderful session here not to keep shouting out all the wonderful sessions that have been happening but there was one yesterday around um things I wish I knew before I became a people manager and like. It’s a lot to be in a management position to know that these folks are impacted by the way that you navigate um even if you don’t mean it they’re reacting to the way that you model right it’s such a deep responsibility to be a a people manager and I don’t know that everyone approaches um climbing a corporate ladder or a nonprofit ladder or your consulting growth or whatever it is aware of that um. But our collaboration is such a big part of no matter how we work collaboration is there so if you don’t have a comfort with this feedback how can we build a shared culture together, call and response with them I guess um it’s gonna get in your way no matter what, no matter how you work you can’t move around the workforce in any way and get away from working with people that’s just we’re all we have Tony we’re all we have. I appreciate what you said nothing you can say is. Take away anything that I know I have, yeah, and that’s work, right? I don’t say that lightly, right? she’s still on her journey we’re all gonna do it but hopefully you have that community around you who can mirror back to you, how they see you, um, you know, we have to be developing feedback loops everywhere in our personal lives. We should have that, that sense of belonging in our life to come back to because to your point, someone’s gonna come at you sideways and. Like you get to be mad right? whether or not you blow up in the office I’m gonna say no I’m gonna say I’m gonna say no that’s not a not a tip that I’m gonna offer but like you get to have feelings you’re a person, right? You get to process it, you get to feel some way about it and then you get to come back to the table and figure out like how am I gonna get to like what’s really helpful in what was offered, how am I gonna apply it to benefit me and my growth and this these projects that I care so much about. Um, you have some, you got a story you can share? Yeah, then your, your session description said you had. I tell a little bit of um I give folks reflection around um when I pointed out the barriers to day to day feedback I always ask the audience because you know we trend this way and that way we’re in a different year. I asked them. Um, to reflect on like these barrier things, and I asked them like where do you recognize perfectionism, defensiveness, quality over quantity, either or thinking, um, because often these are the things that stop us from receiving feedback we dismiss it and we have to be really really careful who’s feedback we’re dismissing and why. Um, and so I asked them like, do you recognize these from anything else, and I wanna give super props to N10, um, because this space half the room shouted in unison, these are the tenets of white supremacy culture like they were so aware, um, and that work and that like the pattern of these popping up and realizing that they’re such human experiences is such deep work. So I always ask folks, are there any of these that you don’t um recognize and then we dive into stories of how we’ve seen these things pop up in our work and how kind of funny it can be because um it feels so obvious when we’re all sitting together in reflection mode but when you’re working right often sense of urgency pops up in nonprofit so much right because these are really um inherent needs right like. We’re doing real work, yeah, yeah, especially now, yeah, so we’ll talk about you know ways we’ve seen good intentions show up in ways that are just sometimes frankly hilarious, you know, folks showing up with items or goods thinking that this is the answer and this is what you need and now your capacity is a little bit more drained because you’ve got a piano and 7 broken guitars and. Someone at the staff has to do something with them, you know, um, there’s such a way that these things pop up and if we can for for me what I try to do is like. You know, have your little joker moment laugh a little bit you get to, you have to, um, and if you can bring humor to the ways that we are so humanly fallible, like can we all enjoy this together this sitcom’s hilarious like we’re we’re just meat sacks of emotion clanging up against each other trying to make the world better and if we can bring some of that presence to it like people are joy people are generous people are. Fascinating and and maybe that’s just kind of why I’ve ended up doing the kind of work that I do, but you know an artist is curious the musicians wanna name what’s going on under the surface and um there’s so much under the surface when we’re all really dedicated to good work it’s personal like we said. It’s a beautiful place to live. All right. Donna James, if you want to connect with Donna on LinkedIn, uh, she spells her first name D A N A. Donna James, systems design and engagement strategist at Community Centric fundraising. Thank you for sharing, Donna. 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Dahna hello and welcome to tony martignetti non-profit radio big non-profit ideas for the other ninety five percent. I’m your aptly named host welcome opportunity collaboration. If you are joining me from that very special gathering in x top of mexico last week, i welcome you to the show, and i’m glad you’re with me. I’d suffer the effects of rhabdo mile isis if it came within my ken that you missed today’s show it’s a full day of fund-raising day shift happens on hell aloma, executive director of food for the poor, shares valuable fund-raising strategies for upgrading your donors he’s got tips for marketing communications, true donor-centric zm metrics and employee evaluations that was recorded at fund-raising day twenty fourteen and the event to pipeline get committed major donors our of your out of your events who i needed i needed interns, aiken, blame somebody for this copy get committed major donors out of your events by making them transformational, not merely transactional pat clemency has before, during and after event ideas. She’s, president and ceo of make a wish metro new york and western new york learn lessons from rochester and buffalo this also from fund-raising day twenty fourteen antony’s take two i have more to say about opportunity collaboration, this amazing five day conference on poverty alleviation where i was responsive by generosity. Siri’s hosting multi charity five k runs and walks it’s all fund-raising day today here’s my first interview from fund-raising day twenty fourteen welcome to tony martignetti non-profit radio coverage of fund-raising day two thousand fourteen we’re at the marriott marquis hotel in times square, new york city. Beginning the day with unhealed aloma on hill. His seminar topic is shift shift happens how to ensure upgrading your donors is a smooth move on hell. Aloma is executive director of food for the poor on hell. Aloma welcome! Welcome to the show. Thank you. Glad to be here, it’s. My pleasure. I’m glad you’re with me on a very busy day. Thank you for taking time in the beginning. Um, we’re talking about the shift. The upgrade from, i guess. Modest donor toe major. Major donor. Right. Basically, we should be working all the time getting our middle donors to become upper middle and then afterwards, major donors? Some will not, but a lot of them will if they’re treated properly. Okay. And what? Is it that you see non-profits sometimes doing wrong? I guess not not treating properly, i guess generally, well, one of the major things is not being truly donor-centric i think it all non-profits when whenever we have a meeting, we say donorsearch king donorsearch king but it takes, you know, something really quite traumatic to make you internalize that issue. I went all the way to holland to be inspired by an american four years ago. Thoma hearn. And he really had he had pieces from all different charities, and he was reading them. And he said, look at this, everything is about the charity and they have done studies where eighty percent of donors who had left on the charities have claimed to be distanced by the charity. And so when i went back home, i thought to myself, very smugly we don’t do that. And then i started going over our pieces and i realized that everything was about food for the poor food for the poor builds houses food for the poor gets food, food for the poor digs wells. So i went on a rampage for three years with our writers and food for the poor had to become absent. It had to be the donor. And the word help had to be eliminated. Not thank you for helping us build homes is thank you for building homes. Thank you for feeding starving children. Thank you for e-giving clean water to children at risk of not. Thank you for helping us to do all those things. Exactly supporting us and doing all those things. Right. Okay. Well, that’s. Very interesting. So it starts now. You felt you had to go to holland to see tom. You know what? No one in the u s is doing this doing this well short. Thoma herne did at some point. But is he the only one in the world now, see, conference in holland is it’s a beautiful conference. Nine hundred sixty three people were there sixty three different countries represented. I see western in-kind fund-raising congress. Okay. Congress to congress. Not a not a conference to congress. What year was this? That you went. This is i have been every year for the last seven years. But this is four years ago that i went to knock to its every october and in holland. Okay, you, uh you came back and you started with your marketing communications way have our own creative in house, so i went to the creative director. I said, this is what we have to do, and i edit everything. I’m sort of the final editor before things leave the organization, so whenever i saw anything that was organization centric, i took it out, sent it back, and it took actually three years to get the writers to go from organizational centered to donor-centric, but but you’re the executive director. Why did it take three years? Because they were accustomed for twenty nine years before the in doing this, we’re a thirty two year old organization, okay, you’ve accounted for all the years. There you go, and you know what they say, you know, culture, its innovation for lunch. Oh, that’s, very good. I never heard that, but culture eats innovation for lunch. Yeah, that’s. Okay, it’s, very hard to change. What else? What else do we need to be thinking about? Well, anything else, let’s, say, within our marketing with our marketing messages to be truly donor-centric you also have to break down the silos? And frankly, when i went to food for the poor fourteen years ago, everybody had given up on it. It is such a tough fight. And then i was sitting at a conference in here in new york, actually, and i heard a speaker say something that if you don’t dream really big, you will never achieve the impossible, and i stopped listening to him. At that point on, i wrote eight pages of a new fund-raising vision, and i went back and i said, you know what? This is not happening by itself, so i became somewhat of a benign dictator, and i said, this is my vision for this. We’re going to stop having the silos. I know it’ll take some time. I want you to buy-in i want your feedback, but in the final analysis, this will happen. I said, if you’re not on my bus, you have to get off the bus, but i’m not gonna have any energy vampires started. Going around saying, oh, no, this to her, i don’t know, we can’t do this and, you know, it’s amazing. We have beautiful people who are fundraisers, and they’re so nice and so personable, but you take fifteen dollars of their credit and they go totally nuts. So why don’t we? Let’s ah, quaint listeners with what? What? What food for the poor does i’m well, our name has become a misnomer. Where a thirty two year old charity we work in our backyard, where in florida and will help seventeen countries in the caribbean and latin america. And we started out giving food teo missionaries in jamaica. And then we went to haiti. And then now we’re in seventeen countries and we do not only food. We do housing with duke water wells. We do medical. We do education and self sustainable projects. Now subsumed in in the story you just told is this kind of change has to come from leadership. Absolutely. It has to come from the top down because people of fundraisers sort of by nature have that sales mentality that it’s mine, it’s mine, the donor’s mind the sailors mind. And so you have to get rid of that. And actually, i have to say that it for the last year and a half that i started this, it has been working really beautifully because if you’re going to be donor-centric than the donor has to choose what he wants to give to and buy what channel he’ll give it on. If we restrict him from that, then we’re not being donor-centric let’s help the leadership that’s listening. What? This is a three year process it was give us some details about what you had to do, too, create the culture to create the culture change. Well, as i said, it has to be somewhat of a benign dictatorship, but you seem more like a benevolent dictator. Yeah, but probably i’m going about your benevolent, not just benign, okay, you’re right, i believe in servant leadership, but at the same time you have to set the pace. And so i i’ve had a lot of fundrasing meetings, i am in charge of the fund-raising out food for the poor, so i had meeting with the directors. The creative director also answers to me, so i was able to influence that also on the fact that i sent it back if they didn’t do it right, you know, it had to redo it. Eventually it started diminishing and diminishing until now and it’s funny, because at that time we used to send twenty three pieces of mail a year that most people gasp when they hear that on, we used to get a lot of complaints about too much mail, too much mail, then we are now sending twenty eight, and we get seventy percent less complaints because now the donor’s feeling good about himself when he reads it outstanding more slightly more communications a year, andi, seventy percent fewer complaints outstanding. All right, well, we need to dive in deeper. What do we do with the if we have? Maybe you didn’t get food for the poor, but the recalcitrant employees, whether whether fundraiser or or editor there, just not, or even boardmember they’re just not coming along to true donor-centric zm, our board is looking at the larger picture and they get all the financial stuff they get all the audited financial statements, we have an internal auditor that answers to them, but they really don’t interfere in the daily running of the organization. Okay, and as long as we’re doing well, they’re you know, they’re happy and they’re looking over, but they’re looking most with financials and they’re respecting that it’s your absolute your responsibility to culture fundrasing okay, so board was not a was not it was mostly in the lower level of fund-raising that we had the issue because we had tto also change our way of judging the fundraisers, because whereas before they were judged totally by bottom line, we have to find new ways like by the number of donors that they passed on to a higher level rather and by how much? Oh, look at them sex. So let’s, talk more about some of these quantitative measures that you use so that’s one measure is how many donors did you pass on? Right, which is antithetical to the to the culture that had been, which is very comment wolber race to them. Hold on. Excellent. What what other way started for our phone center? For example, we have an internal phone center with sixty one people in it. And we started incentivizing by the number of completed calls rather by how much money they made because there is a very definite connection between number of calls and income, so we stopped looking at income and incentivized them for for the number of calls completed completed colonies it calls exactly with meaning they had they had a conversation so forth, because then the phone center instead of a fundrasing department, they have three campaigns a year, but they’re also a service department. So basically now what they do is i ask every director who was a fundraiser and their monthly reports tohave a line for how much they’re they’re department raised, but also to have a second line showing the donors that they have in their department how much money they have raised for the organisation altogether and it’s amazing because those same donors gave two, three or four other channels now that they’re no longer restricted by the fundraiser as though they’ve brought in there their experience with food for the poor. Absolutely, and we’re doing better than the year before we’re actually above budget this year, andi haven’t been the best, you know, conditions, country wise, economy wise, but we still have done better every year you’re tuned to non-profit radio tony martignetti also hosts a podcast for the chronicle of philanthropy, fund-raising fundamentals is a quick ten minute burst of fund-raising insights, published once a month. Tony’s guests are expert in crowdfunding, mobile giving event fund-raising direct mail and donor cultivation. Really, all the fund-raising issues that make you wonder, am i doing this right? Is there a better way there is? Find the fund-raising fundamentals archive it. Tony martignetti dot com that’s marketmesuite n e t t i remember there’s, a g before the end, thousands of listeners have subscribed on itunes. You can also learn maura, the chronicle website, philanthropy dot com fund-raising fundamentals, the better way. Let’s talk about more quantitative measures and analytics for evaluating the employee performance in creating this culture change what else? Right whillans there? Well, we have a whole line of setup for direct mailing the phone center where way again we what we’re looking for is to move them up and our we have to treat all donors differently. Also, our radio donors that week that we acquire from radio different so we have started looking also at how best to treat them according how they want to be treated toe have more surveys toe have more of like in our news letters we have if you don’t like the way well, the language start nicely what i’m saying now, but if you don’t like the way you’re being treated right now, communications wise, please call this number. Please let us know police send an email to this so they can know that they’re in charge that they’re in control on dh when they give you feedback like that, you know that they love you because they didn’t love you. They would just say, forget it. I’m just gonna write about, you know, we always incredibly valuable he always flag. People who complain because they’re good enough to call us or that has no right. And there they now for our major donors, we have, for example, a whole different line of approach. And once they have reached that level, i they have access to me. They all can get in touch with me. They have access to special events they get. They belong to a special club so special, you know, they get a statue of christ, the beggar where christian organizations so we can go of jesus the beggar. And you know that i have every month i have to coffee breaks with the exec director where each major donor person invites maybe fifteen to twenty of their people to come on a conference call. And i thank them in a very special manner. I give them the updates of how the organization is doing to that point, which most other donors will get. Once a year, they get the annual report. These people are being told all the time. This is what your you know. Your donations are doing this right now and it’s. Amazing when they start speaking in those calls, how they affect the other. Donors on that called me that we end up in tears sometimes, you know, it’s it’s an amazing thing. It sounds like it could be very moving. It is called avery moving it is because i tell them stories of when i travel. You know, i just just two weeks ago, i was in guyana last thiss monday tuesday, wednesday was in haiti, you know, here and now in new york now totally the opposite situation, but, you know, they they love hearing things that they don’t get in their normal appeals. In the normal things i write letters to anyone who gives a gift to five thousand up on my letters are very donor-centric i mean, you know, there’s one letter that just goes on that they’re superheroes and i always start with a statement that kind of makes them feel special like you are super here is and then i talk about how, like, my two miles, you know, used to come and save the day and, you know, then i give them a story on him to save the day. I apologize for the people who have who have a near that recognises true music i’m sorry. I’m sorry. That’s ok does not considered a classic, and i still ruined it. But it’s it’s amazing that, you know, they hear stuff like this and and hear stories from the field that i just experienced. So i become somewhat emotional with them and then they get that and they really feel very special that they’re being called to this small gathering and they feel they’re part of the inner circle and they are because i listened to what they say. I mean, we went through what we call an emotional inquiry study a very expensive issue, but we are very large charity, ok, an emotional enquiries where they they’re they interviewed in depth for our sixty of our best donors in the organization. T let us know, really, what is the truth? And you know, when we asked her donors in a superficial conversation, why are you giving money to food for the poor? Because i want to help the poor. Well, in those studies, they found out that the number one reason is because donors want to feel like decent human beings in a world so full of negativity and evil. So then we know how to communicate because that also, although we started doing the donor-centric before that it’s, kind of like confirms that yes, this is the way they want to feel good about themselves. And if you don’t do that, they’re not going to give and you ended up calling them superheroes. Absolutely. I told him how they put on their cape of compassion and you know, they’re they’re sort of of generosity and you know, all this stuff. I built this whole story, and then what happens is that we get a second large gifts shortly after they get my letter and that’s and that’s, you know, gratitude. Thank you. Thank you thing that’s. Another huge thing where fund-raising is concerned and moving donors. We get more than five percent of our total income cash income for the year from thank you letters we never mentioned and asking the thank you letter. But we sent an envelope and we send a reply. Peace. Now that we were doing so well with thank you that we decided how about adding in rember totally used to send twenty three and now we’re seven. Twenty eight he added three thank you’s, not for a gift just simply thanking the donors with a reply peace in an envelope and guess what? The one in january, which is a tough month for us, after the donors are exhausted from giving in fall, we made over a million net because again the costumer thank us next to nothing is a piece of paper and an envelope, and you put in the reply peace in the end, the end on the envelope inside and that’s, you know, they were so we were thanking them for all they’re giving over the fall over the year, but a very genuine, very heartfelt thank you and men. They really responded to that in january when they would’ve been exhausted, as i said, and that was not a not a thank you for a specific it was not over everything that i don’t do. Three of those a year in the points where we find it the hardest to send an appeal like this summer. You know, people are also not a cz, you know, ready to give up, you know, there often vacations so forth and again, you know, last summer we did one and very successful you’re sending those just to recent donors napor labbate labbate the owners will not collapse no, we are people who have given in the last twelve months. Okay, so from from when you’re sending the mailing twelve months preview, but we’re working on one now for people saying, we want to thank you for your generosity for so many years. And you know what? We haven’t heard from you recently, you know, but we still are so appreciative because you helped us build a crucial time. You know, we’re working on one like that, too, for the more recently lapsed recent lapse. Okay, okay. Um, gosh, all right, we have we have a lot more time together so we can spend more time on some detail. This this became a part of the employee assessment. Sort of annual their annual review. Exactly. How did you donor-centric zm what way? Call it like. Well, it’s basically, ru willing teo teo, to sacrifice your own personal beliefs for the good of the organization, for the good of the unit of the poor. And we’re helping. And it’s it’s part our evaluations, sir, they have a part that are very the part that are very, you know, like specific. But then you are able also to write whatever you like and that’s the part where i usually commended the ones who have and i tried toe be gentle, but firm we’re the ones that we don’t because what happens is basically when on employee refuses to get on the bus. You know, i read a book about the energy bus on energy vampires, and they become energy vampires as as a servant leader, i really tried toe water to fertilize, to give them every opportunity to give them training so they can see the way that we want to head. But if all of that doesn’t work, then you’re actually doing them a favor by having them go to a place where they can be happy. Yeah, the so i guess it’s sort of ah, friction that you had to overcome it was there was a fair amount of resistance, particularly because there were some fundrasing departments that were a mixture of fund-raising and service like the web, for example, where they do service for other departments, but they also do fund-raising and then we used to, for example, have to landing pages for every appeal because the web oftentimes didn’t appeal based on a direct mail appeal, but one landing page for the earl went to direct mail, but the landing page for the general webb went to webb and i said, no, this is sort of direct mail appeal when that most of us who are who are computer savvy, we don’t go to the earl, we just put food for the poor and look for what you want, you know? So and that was, you know, a big part of income. I said, you will be recognized for that don’t worry, you’re not going to be judged if it drops and guess what web did that last year and so did direct mail, you know, so really what it does is it really makes the donor feel better. And when that happens, they give more the i’m really interested in the inn overcoming these these objections let’s, let’s get a sense of still a process, you know is three years old, the copywriters air all great now, but the issue of whose credit and so forth it’s you know, we still up to yesterday we had a director’s meeting and the issue came up like we have an angels of the poor program, which is the monthly giving program, but the web has a separate giving program because they’re they’re average monthly gift us forty one dollars and eighty cents, whereas the monthly gift for the angels of the poor program is twenty one dollars. So you know the director who runs the angels of the poor says, but, hey, i want to, you know, i want teo, you know, get the web, teo, you know, push more the angels of the poor. And we have to say, look what is good for the poor forty one, eighteen or twenty one, you know, if the web is doing better and they’re doing than leave them with it, you know, it’s it’s, okay, you know, if you lose a little branding for this, how many people are in the direct fund-raising hominy direct fundraisers do you have we have a little over three hundred employees at our building in coconut creek? We have eighty five priests and pastors who go to church is every weekend to raise money for the poor on behalf of the poor, and we have a food for the poor. And so basically i would say that of the three hundred at work, about two hundred are involved. Maybe more than two hundred involved in fund-raising. Okay. And you said you’re in charge of fund-raising of all the directors who fund-raising yeah, we have different. We have thirteen fund-raising departments and all the directors answer to me. Okay, so it is the project’s apartment to the creative department, the pr department. I’m also a spokesperson for the organization. What? What other strategies? And we still have some time left together. What other strategies haven’t we talked about for creating? This is culture shift. Well, i think you always when when you have an organization that is asking people for something you always have to give back something in our case is prayer. Every single. And we spend a lot of money on this. For example, with our own staff, we pay for half an hour the beginning of each day, and the staff can choose either to start work at that point or to go to our prayer room for half an hour. Of course, it will be different for every organization and on religious and unchristian organization of this would not work. But for us, our donors are inclined to really like this with every appeal we send with every thank you nona, thank you’s with every appeal on dh with every newsletter, they have a chance to write a prayer request. Now most people might think, ok, we throw those in the garbage or we put them in a big basket and pray over them. We actually call every donor that we have a phone number for and pray with them on the phone. Then we pray for them in the prayer room, so they really feel great about you should see some of our testimonial letters. You know, it was about to commit suicide in the person called me, and i prayed with them way have iphone that because we don’t want to be left behind, we have an iphone app, you press it for prepare food for the poor, and within five minutes a live person calls to pray with you. So every organization has to think what i e-giving our donors over and above the great feeling, because it does, it changes the hearts of our people who give to you. I mean, i feel we have three. Missions our poor, our staff and our dahna owners because we have changed so many lives toe act with generosity. I mean, when people become generals, they’re happier people. I mean, we have businessman tell us now i goto work knowing what is it i’m working for, you know? So we we have that situation, you know? But you have to give them something besides that good feeling, you know, we know the brain produces all sort of chemicals when they give, but i have to give them something else over and above, so every organization should think, what is it that we’re giving our donors that’s making their lives better in our case? It’s prayer in an environmental, you know, who knows the photographs of things that they have finished, you know, whatever calendar you know it yet, but we have to give back something and i’m not talking about, you know, premiums, you know, you don’t have to spend a lot of money talking about, you know, it’s not going to be thoughtful, it could be a thank you call for the entire staff, like, for example, i know that i’m that operation smile does that once or twice a year, their entire staff, the place shuts down for the day and their entire staff calls donors. So we’re actually considering doing that in writing tohave hand written notes, we have five million dollars in our file eight hundred thousand, which are active so we can’t do it for all donors but taken the top level of our file and having all our staff and you hadn’t held great, it’d be for someone to open the letter and have it from the person who cleans the cafeteria and, you know, here is that, right? Yeah, i’m a huge advocate of the hand written note because they’re so infrequent, and especially for older donors, right? They grew up with that and it’s now so uncommon, they’re lucky to get an email or a text, but the hand written note very, very, very powerful and yeah, coming from staff that say, here’s, how your gift helped me do my work or, you know, you’re trying to make it not just helped me here’s how here’s, how you’re doing the work for the organization, i guess through me, whether whether i’m cleaning the cleaning, the floors or absolutely or i’m cfo. And that’s my ministry with the staff to let every single one feel that they’re feeding the poor. Also it’s not just the fundraisers and it’s, not just the ones who handled the big donors. We still have a couple minutes left. I’m going teasing these ideas out of your what? What happened? We talked about yet your session is coming up, you must have a well or in your head. I think we have to put an emphasis if we want to really have donors move up the ladder on monthly donations like that’s. One of the ways we incentivize our phone callers on our direct mail and everybody we see how many monthly they can get. You know how many people that can convert from from a single gift givers to monthly and that’s when i see a single gift givers, i don’t mean to give one single gift for the year, but they give in single times like maybe three times a year, four times a year, and we’ve been having a great success. Whether the monthly donors has tremendous advantage. According to industry averages, they last more than twice the length of a donor that does. Not they renew very easily and they actually upgrade very easily, because when you have a person giving ten dollars, a month that’s one hundred twenty year, they don’t psychologically, they don’t think of it as one hundred twenty, they think of it as ten dollars, so when you call them us, they were having a famine right now in guatemala, they had floods and, you know, we have problems that coffee workers are laid off. Um, would you mind going up to twelve dollars, psychologically again? They’re thinking of two dollars, and i think you have twenty four, so they’re very you know, we have had great success upgrading monthly, so our website is designed to get monthly, gives our default in many of the pages is for monthly, and it created a little a little gang to the young. I mean, i have to admit a lot of people felt that was just deceiving because they didn’t read it properly and things like that. So we know we have in bold letters, does this have a gift that will be taken out every month and so forth? But you know what our monthly gives on the web increased? By three percent monthly with that default because the majority, you know, i really want to do it, you know, and it’s an idea they didn’t tend to have and they wouldn’t normally choose. But once they saw it there, it’s amazing. When people are given the power to change, they have the single gift option underneath. They really usually don’t you know when the same with the mail when we tell them if you don’t like the way you’re being treated by mail, they feel so good about having the power that they leave it, you know, they don’t on hel and subsumed in all this is that it’s so much cheaper to treat a donor properly and upgrade them absent? It is to acquire a new one. You absolutely don’t have time to go in, but that’s axiomatic so much so much better than than acquiring new donors. That’s correct on hell. Aloma is executive director of food for the poor. Based where in florida. Coconut and coconut curry the cat butterfly capital of the world. Thank you very much. It is a pleasure, tony. Thank you. My pleasure. Thank you, aunt ella loma. And thank you. This is tony martignetti non-profit radio coverage of fund-raising day two thousand fourteen my thanks to the folks at fund-raising day and we’ll have another one coming up very shortly. Generosity siri’s they host five k runs and walks multi charity five k runs and walks it’s hard to generate enough runners to host your own event. 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There were people working with refugees doing education, water and sanitation relief for victims of survivors of domestic abuse and other forms of abuse. Um, empowering entrepreneurship in developing communities and countries. There were funders. There it was, it was just ah, it was remarkable week. There were also media there i was a bonem media fellow, which i’m very grateful two marlys and ron bonem for it was really an unconference no plan. Aries all the discussions, all the programs were discussions. You seated in a circle and they were just they were moderated and there was lots and lots of time for something i think is very special to opportunity collaboration, the one on one meetings, plenty of time to schedule those and that’s where real sharing of ideas got done. I had some excellent, excellent meetings around the show, its value. And i got some very good ideas for, i think, expanding the show and perhaps making it little more ah more global really very much got me thinking and a lot of people thinking for the for the whole. Week we’re in this beautiful setting in mexico. You could relax and and share in a riel no stress environment. If you do work around poverty alleviation, you may want to check out opportunity, collaboration, there’s, a video and a link to it at tony martignetti dot com and that is tony’s take two for friday, twenty fourth of october forty second show of the year here’s another recording from fund-raising day twenty fourteen this is pat clemency talking about your event pipeline and getting major donors from your events. Welcome to tony martignetti non-profit radio coverage of fund-raising day two thousand fourteen way are in times square, new york city at the marriott marquis hotel. With me now is pat clemency. Her seminar topic is the event pipeline turning event guests into major donors. Pat is president and ceo of make a wish metro, new york and western new york that clemency welcome to the show. Thanks, tony. Pleasure to have you you have ah, pretty desperate territory, new york city and western new york it’s an interesting territory, but i think it really is empowering in the sense you get a chance to say all sorts of markets. In which you can raise money and it’s really the opportunity to understand how donors react in their markets and and you know what the universe was, they won’t want to make a difference. And how far west does western new york go in your for that we cover the major cities of buffalo and rochester? Seventeen counties it’s just go over to buffalo. It does. Okay, so we don’t have the middle of the state, but we have a new york city in nassau county and then seventeen states counties upstate. What do you see that non-profits are not quite getting right around events and transitioning donors from events. Well, i think, you know, we all start with special events, i mean, there’s, no question about it, i think it is the recognition that there is a discipline that can make those events were quarter and smarter and are part of a major gifts strategy if we see it as an event that we efficiently come into and go out of without seeing its capacity to build a pipeline of donors for other kinds of fund-raising particularly major gifts, i don’t think we make it a lot, it can. Be so today we really talked had a great dialogue around the issue about some of the things that we can do to make a special event three distinct parts. It matters deeply what we do before going into the event talk a lot about planet absolute, but planning in a different way, that really makes us understand who is coming, who are the prospects, but the day of the event, how do we really connected the donor’s? Not just with the event but with the mission really can make a specific difference and how we then engaged him in the journey, not what the event, but with the organization over time, he’s really the third ingredient in it, and so it really is very helpful to think about it as more than simply the event itself. I’m gonna ask you to talk even closer to the mike because we have now we have the background noise because lunch is lunch is over, so stay nice and close. We don’t pick up too much outside background noise. Well, let’s start with the natural place of planning what? What should be redoing as we’re planning the event? Be planning for transitioning. Attendees to teo to our donor, right? I think we’re all too often we start with logistic rather than the strategy. What are we trying to do and who are we trying to attract? And we also need to cast a wider net if you think of the donor pyramid. I mean, we’re looking at our past event guests and hoping people who will be new to the event will also come, but we’re not looking for the clues that people give us on dso we found there was great opportunity looking at direct male donors, we give one hundred dollars more, and when we did some wealth screening, we found out they gave us one hundred dollars, not because that was their capacity. We had a box and they checked it and they gave us one hundred dollars, but we understood it. When we looked at it, they had so much more capacity, but we never got around to asking them. So looking a little bit more broadly and thinking about the strategy of engagement, we basically said, if you look at an event just as a single time, we’re going to invite them again next year. But if we look at the event and over late, a lot of the major gift strategies we have, the ability to change the whole dynamic. Your loyalty will be that the event it could be that the institution and would be a longer term engagement, we get that right in the planning stage. That’s what we want, right? We don’t want this coming up year after year, and does this include people who come? They may only come one time because there connected with the honoree or just a friend of the organization brought them. Wait, convert those kinds of people. Well, you know, it’s very interesting. We learn a lot from our buffalo, not just offices, because they have a very different evergreen strategy. Honorees are looked at differently than we look at them in new york city, and they are on it for body of work. So as a result, most of their strategy is thinking about how do you get the same donors to renew at higher levels each and every year. So now we’re beginning to implement that, saying, regardless of the honoree, how do we get more of our sponsors to renew and then for those one time donors who come because of a gala honoree, we need to do some more screening and think about who else in our boards within the make-a-wish family knows them so that the relationship can transition to the organization, not simply around the honoree. What else can we learn from rochester and buffalo? Well, you know what i think it is? The universal is people want to make a difference, and we just have to make sure that we’re not leading with what we need. But we understand that the first conversation is the donor’s needs, and the donor wants to be able to make a difference how our job is to take them on the journey by showing them how treating them like an investor. And that is a really key difference. Very often we ask for what we need, and we never think from the donor perspective. What about the organization will really resonate with them for the long haul. Do you really feel that, uh, upstate or western new york is better than downstate new york at this? No. No, i mean, they they’re scale is very different than ours. I mean, it’s a smaller scale. But we i think the best thing about fund-raising is if we are open to understand the best practices exist everywhere they learnt from us, we learn from them and i think it’s one, but i think the interesting thing is in every market, if you begin to institute this practice of looking at a bent donors not just as dahna sporting event on an annual basis, but really, truly look at it as a pipeline, we have seen donors go from seventeen hundred dollars to ten million dollars or from our five thousand dollars to five hundred thousand dollars. It isn’t a journey overnight, but the fact of the matter is some of our very gorgeous major gift owners. Their entry point was at an event it was how we dealt with that that made all the difference as to whether or not that became a continued transaction. We sell a ticket, you come to our event or if it really became a transformational relationship with the mission of the organization, are there other specific things that we should be doing in our planning? Aside from the concept of the lifetime donor, the longer term relationship are there things? Specific to a note to the invitation who invites them how they’re invited before the event. What else should we be doing specifically? Well, we began talking about if we were to really make this part of our major gifts strategy, what are the shifts that we need to make? And when you think about it, our invitation is to an event we needed t even change the messaging we’re not just inviting you to invent. We’re inviting you to share and join in this extraordinary mission and that’s very subtle, but it’s a very big difference, and so we even change the fact that when you come to a gala is a perfect example. Think about how we spend the first hour at cocktails just kind of wandering around. Instead, registration is outside, so the minute you enter the doors, you are coming in and part of a community of like minded people who believe that this is some of the most important work we could do for kids, and you are meeting wish families and volunteers and boardmember course, searching you out as the guest that evening and that first hour becomes a really important message about we. Welcome your involvement in this remarkable work. How do we convey that message in our cocktail hour? Well, it’s really about storytelling and changing who tells the story? So if you think about it very often at a gala, whether it is during the cocktail hour it’s during the main speeches of the night, we’re putting up the ceo, they’re putting up the board chair. We’re talking about the past. We’re actually talking about statistics and how much money we raised in our case, somebody wishes granted when we changed the dynamic of who the storyteller wrists really should be the people who experienced the mission first hand and as we tell the story through their eyes, it says to a donor here’s exactly what your donation would do here’s exactly how it makes a difference in that moment for a lifetime that’s a very different relationship from the beginning of the point where that donor enters the gala. If we’re going to focus on storytelling at our events and it might be a very big one memory big gala or it might just be a smaller could be anything smaller, gathering, maybe even a meeting. Absolutely we need thio. Sounds like have a very consistent message that the leadership is conveying that trickles down to all the employees and then also the board is conveying right when we need to have consistency and messaging. Well, you have to be have consistency in a couple of things. I think you have to have consistency and messaging for sure, but you also have to build a culture where the board and the staff are engaged in thinking about who’s there, you know, there’s, not a throwaway seated any event, and when you think that it matters most, there is a greater level of engagement on the part of the board and the staff and pretty work that gets done who’s at those tables, who should we know how we welcome them? What would be important to them? And it allows boards to be successful. You know, something tells me you’re from boardmember i’ve given you every contact i have there’s, nobody else i can approach will dis empowers boards to reach out to other people that the organization knows and be champions that night for the cost, so they’re assigned we’re assigning people, too, to meet specific people during the evening. During the event absolutely and beyond that you’re the eyes and ears. Every single person has a role kind of just surveying the room and learning what what they’re hearing that night and reporting it back. So justus, we schedule an event on a day before that event takes place. We also have the debrief date by which boardmember sze volunteer staff get together. What did you hear? What did we learn? In very often? One piece of information about somebody was in the room is magnified then by another repeat piece of information and out of that then becomes thought okay with the event is over, but it’s on ly really beginning in terms of engaging that dahna long term now on the way for the organization and so part of the debrief is what’s next. What are some of the opportunities? And you’re right, we have to be on the same page. If someone were to say to us post event, i’d love to be involved how we ought to be able to convey what the options are many and there’s not going to be one that works for everybody, but everybody needs to know here’s some of the ways that you could be involved on an ongoing basis so we’ve transitioned from beginning in the planning stage two day of now, we’re at our event. What else? A little bit there. Sorry, that was a little loud. What else should we be thinking about? You are executing the day off too. Create this transition. Well, i think the other thing that you could do very, very well is start with the strategy what’s the message that you’re trying to convey that should be the threat of connection to everything that’s being done that night and for us was really talking about the ripple effect of wishes. And the ripple effect of wishes is a moment in time. Yes, but it also has a lifelong impact. So one of our speakers was a thirty five year old executive with a wall street firm. He was a wish child seventeen years ago, and so the impact for him wass it had a ripple effect through his life. The life of his brother, who they really had a hard time when he was diagnosed with cancer. As the family would tell you, everybody’s diagnosed cancer, you know said everybody has cancer feels like, and so the threat of connection of his wish was in that mama with his brother, but it was also over his life, he became a wish training volunteer, helping others but imagine his role now explaining to people in his way that this investment that you will make tonight in support of this event hasn’t hasn’t impact come on the future generation of kids just like buy-in that’s a that’s an amazing way to tell the story, so the first part is what we’re trying to do. We’re trying to show the ripple effect over time across families in communities, and so all of those voices were part of the program that once that strategy is that you can always worry about the logistics next, but you’ve got to get that piece of it and too often in event planning for the night of we think about the logistics, but we haven’t really thought about the strategy and that that’s, what we lead with and that story telling is is just a one part of it. Next is if you’ve told the story, then you’ve gotta provide a tangible way for people to make a difference. And so we don’t. We do a lot of fund-raising at night, but its not around an auction for things. We had one great item this year, and the rest is all about an auction to allow people to sponsor wishes and that’s the meaning of it. You go from the programme, which told the story from the perspective of families who have experienced it and then give people the opportunity to share in joining the mission by sponsoring future wish. It was incredible to watch the little store ones, and some don’t respond to the wish. A season for wishes, any or twenty five thousand dollars donation in the room, an individual wish right down to a thousand dollars and watching the room right up. Every time somebody was part of the community that was making a difference was really an extraordinary thing. It allowed people to know that this was a really special thing, that in this time and place, we’re all making a difference. 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I’m going to ask a little just sort of a digression just about the logistics of that that auction for wishes did you have people predetermined that would that would be bidding on on any of the any of those auctions and those wish auctions way we thought about wass how could we make it? And i don’t mean to suggest the whole thing’s rigged? No, no, you have one or two people who you knew would get the ball rolling. They were all legitimate that we wouldn’t do that, but but there’s a couple of things that we were able to do before tony. So three board members came forward and said for new donors who never made a donation before to make a wish, the ability to come and make a difference for a child that’s a pretty important thing, but how much more would they feel? The impact of that initial donation if we came up with a challenge match, so three of our board members got together and one hundred and seventy five thousand dollars was put up in advance. They pledge this, and they would match donations of two hundred seventy five thousand that was a huge thing. We also knew from a couple of donors at the wish auction for somebody who couldn’t be at the gala, they were out of town was still a way to participate, so for people who weren’t there and want to participate that’s part of our culture now you always have this opportunity give even if you can’t be there. So we knew a handful of dahna they do it’s what you do for the ones who couldn’t be there, so they have already pledged it, and they made that commitment right before and so we let people know that we were able to do that. Those two things are done in advance. We know that if if people know that thie donation they make is going to be doubled, there’s a likelihood that they’re going to give a little bit more on dh, then the other one to find a way to let donors who just cannot be there that night. How else could we participate when it’s about wishes anybody can participate? And i think that helped a cz well, so that’s kind of the two things we know going into the night way announced to the audience and then the third part of our trilogy stories after the event, what do we need to be now? Follow-up should be planned during planning, right way. We should be thinking about what our follow-up is gonna be while we’re doing the advance planning it is, but we’re hearing a lot that night, and you’re understanding what the individual journey might be for donorsearch we can talk about on overall strategy were also listening to the donors needs as well, and that we hear that that night so that’s that’s an important thing. But, you know, i think there’s a couple of great examples, our ten million dollars donors started out as a seventeen hundred dollars, went on. He bought tickets to a mets game where they were doing a benefit for make a wish and to see the journey after some of the events it was where he got to the transitional stage was when he was able to make a difference for the individual wish kids so began to grant wishes and then began to think, well, if i could grant a wish, i wonder if i could do more then he began to grant a wish a month for five years. Sixty kids when you think about that and that his attitude wass but i could inspire others by this, and i have to lead by example. So in his office building, he took down some of his paintings and put up something that we have designed which was simply a tree, acknowledging those wishes that have been granted so simple. First name of a child and a wish. When you came up into his lobby, you immediately saw that this was somebody who was champion the cause. So he then, as he got closer after after having been an event donor now he’s making a difference for children. And so when it became time to start thinking about the next generation wish total, you know, in two thousand thirteen we were thirty years old, and we had grand on ten thousand wish. And we had a big bowl dream for the future. We wonder, grant the next ten thousand wishes because we understood now importance and impact want to grant those ten thousand wishes in a decade? Well, how do you sell somebody on a big, bold dream? Will you go to your best? Investors in the cause. And he said, well, like to give you a down payment on the future. And that became the largest individual gift in the history of make-a-wish worldwide from an individual. And think about that for the for the future of this organization. You know, here was somebody who went from seventeen hundred dollars. Two. Ten million. But it was never about ten million dollars for him was about the ability to change ten thousand lives. And so you think we moved from transaction. You know, i give you tickets to this event because you gave me a donation moved to the transitional stage where we could say thank you for making a difference for that child to the transformational stage would thank you for making a difference for the future of the mission that’s where the journey goes. If we take our special event and understand that each of those stages the preplanning the night of and what happens after are all distinct but equally important segments that can help. That dahna journey. Okay, we still have a couple of minutes left. Anything you want, teo. Hopefully you do have something. You want to share that. We haven’t said yes, well, i think, you know, one of the things that i was really struck by wei had our gala on june twelfth this year, and there was a couple who had come forward and they were security. They secured the honore and they were great in helping support the fund-raising around him and as they thought about sending a letter out two people to solicit funds from business colleagues and family and friends, i learn a lot when you see the letters say, right? And this one just simply said we got involved with make a wish because we learned about Micah 6 year old who want to be a ballerina, we stayed involved because over the years, we’ve seen hundreds and thousands of kids whose lives have been forever changed, and what i realized was here was a couple who came to an event was a cultivation event just learn about make-a-wish and they heard that story and that stayed with them, and now we have an event for which they were such an incredible catalyst as a couple raised one point, six million dollars the fund-raising they did was extraordinary, they’ve been doubt a wish in perpetuity, and yet they never lost sight of the fact that it was at an event that was learning about that one child that touch them and made them want to do more. I don’t think i really understood the power of their motivation until that moment, but what i did, i know that’s the discipline that we need to put in place that’s the story telling you a story telling all the way in which we don’t look at this as a transaction it’s so much more an event can be so much more and could be such a powerful part about how we welcome donors into the extraordinary missions that we all support. Don’t leave it there, ok, tony, thank you. My pleasure, pat clemency. She is president and ceo of make a wish metro, new york and western new york and thank you for bringing lessons from rochester and buffalo. Thank you, my pleasure or listening to tony martignetti non-profit radio coverage of fund-raising day two thousand fourteen. Thank you so much for being with us. Thanks again to everybody at fund-raising day and the new york city chapter of the association of fund-raising professionals. A f p next week, the halloween show. Regular contributors. 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